Pain

01/17/2015

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Is it normal to feel pain during assplay/pegging?  Yes.  Is it necessary?  NO!  Most pain associated with assplay and pegging is a result of not enough prep work, the wrong lube or cheap toys.  Some pain can be actual health issues so if improving none of the above helps...go see a doctor.

How to make assplay/pegging comfortable:

That “tear your apart” feeling usually means your ass is not ready for whatever’s been put inside of it.  If fingers feel good then you know your ass likes penetration.  It's normal to feel a twinge as you are being penetrated.  Make her stop so you can adjust to the invasion and it should pass after a minute of breathing and relaxing.  

1. Never attempt anal when you are not feeling perfect relaxed and ready to go down there.  If you are stressed or not feeling clean you will likely tense up as she penetrates you and that will equal pain.  Having a bath or shower beforehand can often help and make cleaning easy as well.

2. At least 5 minutes of finger play is recommended to work open the anal muscle and prep it for a dildo.  For beginners the dildo should be small... between .75 to 1.25" is around the size of two fingers.  A small plug can be introduced 10-20 minutes prior while you both enjoy some foreplay to help loosen him up.  Or in the bath/shower prior to playtime!

3. LUBE…and not pussy lube either it’s too thin.  Anal lube is your best friend...it's thick and long-lasting.   If you have a silicone dildo stick to water based anal lube, otherwise you might try a silicone anal lube and see which one feels better in your ass.  And remember...as sexy as it is spit doesn’t count as lube and neither does pre-cum!  **IMPORTANT** Steer clear of any lubes with a numbing/desensitizing agent such as Analease!  You can do serious damage to your ass if you can feel that something painful is happening.

4.  Try different positions!  Not every position is going to feel great for you so start with the basics and get more adventurous as you get accustomed to pegging.  The first position to start out with is you on your back with your legs spread and her on her knees between them (as shown below).  The second is with her on the bottom and you on top.   This allows for you to lower yourself down at your own pace and be in control of the penetration.  These are both great positions because she can see your face and read your expressions easily.  Don't be afraid to tell her when to slow down or stop.